How to be a good girlfriend/wife?


1. Be pleasant.

It is said that ‘we need to treat others the way we want ourselves to be treated.  Never be rude to  your boyfriend/husband, family and friends. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Work to be pleasant toward your boyfriend/husband. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around feel bad just because they have had a hard day. Welcome your boyfriend/husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good girlfriend/wife honors her boyfriend/hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to him talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one.

2.Treat your boyfriend/husband with respect.

If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect too.  Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good girlfriend/wife respects her boyfriend/husband and she never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good girlfriend/wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.

3. Communicate.

Communication is the key to a good and solid relationships . Do not hide things from your boyfriend/husband or keep secrets after/in marriage. Be honest to him. Find time to sit and talk with your boyfriend/husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your boyfriend/husband anything then your relationships/marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your boyfriend/husband is talking. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves.

4. Be supportive.

A boyfriend/husband expects girlfriend’s/wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good girlfriend/wife loves her boyfriend/husband through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he’s feeling down. She is a nurturer and an equal partner in the relationships/marriage. Support your boyfriend/husband in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that a girlfriend/wife can make a man or break a man’. There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him or belittle him especially in front of others. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your boyfriend/husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. When you don’t agree with him respectfully let him know you don’t agree.

5. Give him his space.

As a girlfriend/wife you need to understand that your boyfriend/husband has a life other than you also. He has his family, friends and colleagues who too are part of his life. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering girlfriend/wife can sometimes be too irritating.

6. Keep him happy in bed.

Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any relationships/marriage. When you please your man, he would be obliged to please you too. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in Bed he may go where he can get it. After all, a Man is a man! According to research, the major reason why man cheat is mostly physical whereas for a woman it is emotional.

7. Plan surprises.

Men like surprises too. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it or planning a special night of passion by playing a seductress. Your surprises do not have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or any of his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.

8. Express your love and appreciation often.

Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he’s interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else. Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life.  You can cook for him or give him a good massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea. Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. These gestures won’t go unnoticed and it may even inspire him to do something nice for you.

9. Honesty, loyality, dedication.

A good girlfriend/wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her boyfriend/husband.

10. Prepare yourself.

A good girlfriend/wife honors her boyfriend/husband by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care about your appearance and every day. Be hygienic.  A man likes his wife to smell good. If you are unhealthy or not presentable your man may cheat you behind your back.

11. Prepere the House.

Maintain a clean house all the time. Clear away the clutter and spend time decorating the house.

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